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              MANAGING YOUR EMOTIONS

Before we state and discuss how we can manage or emotion, let's start by shedding light on some things

 Define emotion?

 Emotion is any strong feeling. .( Love, fear, anger, compassion etc). It is a feeling all human exhibit at different proportions.

All human exhibit emotions...”Even Thanos cried out of love” what differentiate a man from another is what we do whenever any of these emotion is in play...

There are people who have made deadly mistakes because of love... Love also doesn't always give birth to the best.

Anger had also pushed some people into making positive life changing decisions So, anger isn't all bad........

Now, lastly, before talking about managing..

Let's talk about being emotional...

Being emotional means acting out of emotion and not reason  

This definition has two sides too... But we must not be slaves to it. We must be the boss, whichever side we fall into..

There are times when we must act on emotion and not reason. The bible says pray for your enemy.You see someone who made sure your dad was sacked from his work suffering from a sickness, you feel bad for him(emotion), and want to pray for him, but if you ‘reason’ it (think about it).. Obedience to that command becomes more difficult. 

So here, allowing your emotion spur you into action is a good thing...

 Times will come when you must put reason ahead of emotion. Trust me, this is really difficult. But its something we must learn...

Do you know why a lady will keep going back into a toxic relationship she s had to run from 4 times already? ans Emotion (love).

I mean, the guy promised to change 4 times, he didn't, he still least and harass you, but you're going the fifth time, you're not reasoning.  Reasoning will allow you put make a difficult decision, which includes putting your emotion aside!

 These are the two angles to emotion and action.. The thing is, we must know when to put aside our emotion.. Fear most importantly.

 Many people have refused to take that step that'll change their life because of they are emotional

Many people have lost good relationships that will make their journey to destiny easy, because of anger...

We must know when to allow these emotions, and when to shut them out.

      How can you  manage your emotions?

Now that we know all or part of what we should about emotion.. How can we manage it?

The word manage is defined as to be in charge of, act on or dispose of  

From this definition, there are 3 things we can do with our emotions. Written boldly, but trust me, its so so complicated than that But that's story for another day.

  

       How to manage your emotion...

1.By not managing it...

Emotions are like liquid, the want to flow.

 Fear is like cold water, anger is like boiling magma, love is cold warm hot and everything in between...

 They are all liquid and want to flow.

one of the ways to manage them is by allowing them do that which they want to do, then redirect.... You see that word?

                   “REDIRECT”

Do you know why people build gutters? It’s to stop erosion from spoiling the road. Our lives are roads, Rain is inevitable, but we must learn to build gutters where our emotions can flow.

Anger can't be bottled, some people can botlle it, most people can't, but if you allow it flow the way it (the anger) want to flow, it'll cause damage.

You may end up in a fight, talk harshly, cut important relationship, or lose your job.

But if you allow it flow through a gutter, everyone is safe.

     what are these gutters we’re talking about?

Different people have different things that serve as gutters in their lives. Definitely Everybody has one.

I'm a poet, a spoken word artist. Everything I feel, I convert into a poem. I remember my final year at school, I had not eaten for close to 2days, I wrote a poem on hope, I uploaded it online, people were commenting about how good the poem was.. Lol... But you can guess what the inspiration is? Emotion (hunger)

 I have this deep love for God , I can't seem to express it. I write song that talks about my love for him.

You know that saying that everyone becomes a poet once they fall in love?

It’s because WRITING is a gutter, and lovers who can't bottle this emotion of love put it into writing! Singing is a gutter, painting is a gutter. Playing instrument. Do you know the king of notes a keyboardist that is angry will play is different from that which one that is happy will play... Or one that is sad.

find your gutter... Don't fall into it redirect your emotions into it.

 find something creative..

Creativity is atbits best when it’s born by emotion         (tiwistar, 4/2/19)

Either you want to dispose it, or you want to act on it, start from your gutter...

        Then, you're in charge